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Break Free: Running Scared (David Yarborough)

Sunday, April 19th, 2009

Break Free – What Are You Afraid Of

Running Scared – Have you ever bowed down to the opinion of others? Have you allowed yourself to become hostage to what others think? The Bible calls this the fear of man, and it is one of the greatest fears that controls so many. Let’s seek God’s plan to break free from the fear of man.

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Break Free – What Are You Afraid Of?
Fear is one of our strongest and powerful emotions. What does it tell us? What does it do to us? And more importantly how can we break free from its grip on our lives? This series will look at our greatest fears, and give us God’s prescription for fighting fear in our lives.

Companion

Saturday, April 18th, 2009

There is a key word when it comes to marriage. There is also a key word when it comes to dating. It is not a word that is often mentioned or thought of in the world of dating and marriage though. Honestly, what words come to mind – romance, attraction, passion, chemistry, etc. These certainly are elements of good long term relationships. Perhaps the most important description of a good marriage, however, is a friendship. The best marriages happen when the man and the woman are also best friends. Friendship is not really a sexy word in the world of romance, but it cannot be over-rated in making a good marriage. This means that a couple really enjoys being with one another. Yes, they are lovers, partners, and team-mates, but through it all there is a relationship of friends.

Genesis 2:18 says, “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’” Man needed a companion to walk with him. He was made for a relationship. Yes the aspect of partnership is here, but the bigger idea represented is companionship. A man and a woman should seek to enter into their marriage as best friends. Building upon a solid companionship with one another will lead to greater intimacy in their marriage. And greater intimacy will lead to more trust, more respect and more love. I have heard people say they could never marry someone because they are too good of friends. If there was absolutely no physical attraction there, then I understand. If there is some physical attraction though, there is no better foundation to build upon than that of a true friendship.

Passion in a marriage will ebb and flow. As powerful as sexual attraction is (and yes it is powerful), there is a whole lot more time spent together outside of the bed than in it. And even most of the time in the bed is spent sleeping. So you better be able to talk to one another. You better develop some common interests.

I met my wife in college. She immediately fascinated me. She was fun to hang around. We could really talk with each. We enjoyed each other’s company. We both had a love for God. It took me a while though to realize that she was the one. Finally, a woman told me that you don’t get married because you think you could live with someone, but because you can’t live without them. I don’t know if that is the best advice, but it made sense for me. Amber was the one woman that I didn’t want to live without. I had dated some very nice girls, but Amber was different. I wanted her to be a part of my life forever. I wanted her friendship. I wanted her companionship.

Many marriages that struggle do so for a variety of reason. I am willing to bet though that it is often not as much about your sex life, or the fact that you have fallen out of love. The truth is often that you are no longer best friends (or maybe you never were). You have drifted apart, because you have not been intentional in nurturing the flame of friendship.

So, are you still single? Let me give you some advice: Marry someone who you think can become your best friend for life. Are you married? Don’t underestimate the power of friendship. Grow together. Nurture one another. Have fun together. Love deeply together. Grow old together. There is no more important human relationship than that between a husband and wife. And that’s the Word.

Break Free: Scared to Death (David Yarborough)

Sunday, April 12th, 2009

Break Free – What Are You Afraid Of

Scared to Death – Fear is a paralyzing force in our lives.  It can literally hold us hostage.  The death and resurrection of Jesus begins to help us break free from its grip however. See how the message of cross and the resurrection help us to put fear in its proper place by putting us back into our proper place with God.

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Break Free – What Are You Afraid Of?
Fear is one of our strongest and powerful emotions.  What does it tell us?  What does it do to us?  And more importantly how can we break free from its grip on our lives?  This series will look at our greatest fears, and give us God’s prescription for fighting fear in our lives.

Easter 2009

Saturday, April 11th, 2009

Do not be afraid!  This is a big part of the Easter message.  When Mary entered into the empty tomb, the angel met her and declared, “Do not be afraid.”  When Jesus revealed himself to her, she grabbed his feet and worshipped.  Jesus spoke and said, “Do not be afraid.”  The risen Savior speaks into all of our fears and calls to us as well – “Do not be afraid.”

Fear is something that strikes at all of us.  It is one of the most powerful human emotions.  Fear is the first negative emotion that is expressed in scripture.  After Adam and Eve sinned and rebelled against God, they hid from him.  Adam said to the Lord, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked, so I hid” (Genesis 3:10).  Man’s heart became filled with fear.  He was now afraid of God.  He was afraid of the future.  He felt as if he was now on his own and somehow had to survive in a dangerous world.  That can be scary.  Know what I mean?  Sure you do.  I am convinced that fear is truly rooted in our separation from God.  Sin has left us disconnected from Him.  Even as Christians, there are times we still feel disconnected from our Father.  We feel that we can’t trust Him.  We feel all alone and vulnerable.  There are times that fear takes us hostage.

What is that you are afraid of?  Some of us are afraid of death.  We might be afraid of a bad diagnosis from the doctor.  Many of us have been fearful of the financial future.  The economy has exposed our insecurities, and we face the future with a lot of anxiety.  Some of us are afraid of people.  We are scared of rejection and fearful of failure.

So what do we do?  What does Easter say to our fears? Jesus stepped out of the tomb and proclaimed, “Do not be afraid.”  I think he was seeking to bring peace to his disciples who were fearful of the future.  They felt they had disappointed God, and perhaps no longer felt secure in their relationship with Him.  They had developed an unhealthy fear of God.  He wanted to calm their fearful hearts.

The death and resurrection of Jesus has the power to remove our unhealthy fear of God and assure us of the power of God’s love for us.  Many people fear God’s true commitment to them.  They feel that God is one day going to give them what they fear they deserve.  God’s love is too good to believe in their opinion, and eventually they are going to be punished.  Scriptures says, “(Jesus) was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him” (Isaiah 53:5).  The truth is that God has already dished out what you and I deserve.  He poured out our punishment onto Jesus.  We do not have to fear that God is going to one day give us what we think we deserve.  It has already been dealt with.  Jesus absorbed God’s wrath. We no longer need to be afraid of God’s intention towards us.  When we receive Christ, we can fully receive the love of God.  It is ours.  His love has been purchased for us.

Jesus has also conquered death on our behalf through his resurrection.  The apostle Paul declared, “Where O Death is your victory?  Where O Death is your sting?” (1 Corinthians 15:55).  As Christians, we will still die physically, but it no longer has power over us.  We have no need to be afraid of death, afraid of the future.  If death no longer has power over us, then we should truly be free to live.  A Risen Savior offers His life, His hope, His peace, His presence.  What does Easter say to our fears?  It says everything.  It says, “Do not be afraid.”  And that’s the Word.

Standard

Saturday, April 4th, 2009

Do you remember what it was like when you were trying to get a date?  Are you still in the place where are looking to get a date?  Last week I began a series of columns dealing with our relationships.  We want to talk about some principles for good relationships, starting with the dating process and moving into marriage.  (Next week though, we will break from the current series of articles to talk about Easter).  We said last week that before you get a date, you need to get a life.  You know what else you need?  A standard.

I am often surprised at how Christians really don’t have very high standards for the people they would choose to date.  And yet this is so important because you never know who you will find yourself falling in love with.  There are 6 billion people on the face of the planet.  Do you think there is a possibility that you could find yourself attracted to more than one of them.  You could feel chemistry with many different people, but that doesn’t mean that they would all be a good complement for you.

One of the ways that you sort through the 6 billion people on the face of the planet is by eliminating as many of them as possible by developing a set of standards.  For a lot of singles, eliminating the right one might be just as important as finding the right one.  You may find yourself with a sizzling hot attraction for someone but they could be all wrong for you.

The first standard for any follower of Christ is this: Is the other person a Christian?  The apostle Paul said, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers” (2 Corinthians 6:14).  A yoke was a piece of wood that would harness two oxen together for the purpose of directing their energy and power in the same direction.  The yoke would keep the oxen pulling in the same direction.  If they weren’t of equal strength, however, they would begin to pull against one another.  Eventually one ox would pull the other one in the wrong direction.

As a Christian, if you get into dating relationships where you are unequally yoked, they will most likely drag you off course from your faith, your values and your morals.  I bet some of you know this from experience. Perhaps you met a guy (or a girl) and in the end you found yourself making compromises you never would have imagined.  You may have lowered your standards sexually, financially, or in some other area of your integrity.

Too many people get in wrong relationships because they have not set a clear set of standards.  We all want God’s results for our relationships don’t we?  It is unreasonable to ignore God’s standards and still expect God’s outcome in our relationships.

Too often we set our standards for dating based upon physical appearance, social status, intellectual ability and financial means.  If they look good, have the goods, and make us feel good, then we are ready to go.
God’s standards for our relationships start with character  and qualities.  The key to finding the right mate is to identify the character and qualities you will hold as your standard, and then evaluate any potential partner according to those standards.  A woman can be beautiful but she might have poor character.  A man might be a business success but could courtesy and respect.  Your primary concern should not be with how he or she looks, but what kind of person he or she really is.  So, what are your standards?  Do you have any?  Before you get a date, get a standard.  And that’s the Word.

Get a Life

Saturday, March 28th, 2009

Do you know what you need to get before you get a date?  Over the next few weeks, I want to talk about dating, marriage and romance.  As we start off, I want to address those that are still in the dating game.  So what is it that you need to “get” before you get a date?  The first thing you need to get is a life.

I wonder if any of you have ever had a dating relationship end with a bunch of heartache, tears, and disappointment.  Perhaps you tried to figure out how life was going to go on without the other person.  And then realized something…  You put so much energy and focus into your dating relationship, and so much of your self worth was wrapped up in the other individual. All of sudden you woke and realized how much of your life had been on hold because of that relationship.  Your career, your interests, your friendships and your relationship with God had all taken a backseat to Mr. (or Ms.) Right – and now you have discovered that the person was Mr. (or Ms.) Wrong.

One of the biggest dangers that any single person needs to be aware of as a potential dater is the temptation to make another person the center of our life.  The First commandment of dating is this:  Thou shalt get a life! Your own life.

The most important element you will ever bring into a real relationship is a real life with a sense of purpose, identity, and healthy self-esteem.  You do not want to bring a needy, desperate, clingy life into a dating relationship.  You are not ready to date if that is where you are.

In the book of Genesis, God created man and then put him in the garden to work it and take care of it.  Man had God first in his life.  Then man was given a life purpose.  He wasn’t just sitting around waiting for love to come along.  Eventually the Lord said,  “It is not good for man to be alone.  I will make a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18).

God is the one who said it is not good for the man to be alone.  God had a plan to bring a relationship into man’s life.  He was preparing a bride for him.  God didn’t give man a helper because he was an emotional basket case and didn’t know what to do with himself on Friday nights.  God was making a suitable helper for man, a complement to what was already good.  A “helper” or partner from God is not meant to fix what is broken or fill what is empty in our lives.

A true potential partner is meant to be a companion to complement and strengthen that which is already good.  God made relationships to be two parts that work harmoniously together.  Please read this next phrase carefully: A relationship with the opposite sex is not meant to be a band-aid for a bleeding heart.  Human relationships were never meant to give us the life we have finally been looking for.  We are supposed to bring our own life into our relationship, and ultimately into our marriage.

God said, “It is not good for man to be alone.”  So many have instead turned it into the thought: “I can’t stand to be alone.”  And they buy the lie that they are insignificant if they are not in a dating relationship.  They always have to have a man (or a woman) in order to feel good about themselves.  People with real lives don’t always need to be in a relationship with someone else to feel good about themselves.  I want to warn you from setting all of your hopes for fulfillment in a dating relationship. Finding the right partner is awesome, but you do not want to put so much pressure on a relationship that you are liable to suck the life out of the other person.  So, do you need to get a life?  And that’s the Word.

Change in Ninevah

Saturday, March 21st, 2009

Is there anyone that you think is beyond God’s reach?  Perhaps you think their heart is too hard, or they are too far away from God.  And yet the Bible is full of stories about God changing the heart of men and women who were opposed to him.  The Ninevites were certainly that type of people.  They were cruel, wicked and rebellious.  And yet, there response to Jonah’s message is clear: “The Ninevites believed God.”  (Jonah 3:5)  One of the most wicked people in history turned to the Lord in faith.  They didn’t just believe Jonah.  They believed God.  They believed that Jonah’s words were from the Lord.

You think that Jonah being swallowed by a great fish and spit back on dry land is the miracle of the Bible.  The real miracle is that Nineveh turned to the living God.  In our day, this would be like hearing that Howard Stern is now a Christian talk show host talking about sexual purity. This would be like the hardest person you know turning their life to Jesus.

The Ninevites put on sackcloth and they fasted.  These were postures of repentance and humility.  It was a physical way of saying, “God we are sorry.  We have been going in the wrong direction and we need you.”  Sackcloth was a really itchy, uncomfortable material made out of goat’s hair. It must have been made of goat’s hair as a symbol to represent how “baaaaad” they had been.  Okay, that was a bad joke.  The horrible material was a picture though of how uncomfortable they were in their sin.  They couldn’t bear it any longer.

The king of Nineveh lead the way:  “When the news reached the king of Nineveh, he rose from his throne, took off his royal robes and covered himself with sackcloth and sat down in the dust.”  He stepped off his place of royalty and removed his royal robes because he understood his absolute spiritual poverty.  He realized his royal robes could not cover up his true spiritual poverty. So he rose from his throne.  The throne represents the seat of the one who is in charge.  This was a highly symbolic move.  It was a way of saying, “I am no longer in charge.  I surrender to you.”  The King was surrendering his right to rule and acknowledging God’s right to rule instead.

The King called a complete fast – no eating or drinking.  Not only did the people fast, but the animals fasted as well.  Do you know how loud a heard of cattle would get if they had not been fed or given drink all day?  The King wanted his people to feel the hunger and pain of their condition before God.  He knew they were spiritually depraved, and he was starved for God’s grace and intervention.  He knew they needed to get in touch with their true spiritual poverty before God.

I get this king.  He was taking responsibility as a leader and aching for his own personal condition and that of his people.  There are times I feel it in my own heart.  I look at my own life and the lives of other Christians at times and see how far we can really be from God.  We go to church, sing the songs, and listen to the sermons, but do our lives really bear the fruit of  Christ.  I see that many Christians party like the world, compromise their views on sex and morality, live materialistic lives, and indulge in all kinds of inappropriate entertainment.  At times I become pained in my heart.  Are we really becoming true followers of Jesus?  Do we care about others?  Do we love Jesus more than ourselves?  Or are we way too comfortable in our sin?  Maybe it is time to get up off the throne and let God have his way.  And that’s the Word.

Limited Time

Saturday, March 14th, 2009

Imagine you had to walk into a very violent and rebellious group of people and call them to repentance.  What if God told you to go into an Al Queda terrorist cell group and call them to turn from their violence and evil and seek the mercy of the Living God?  I am all up for a great adventure, but I am not exactly sure I would sign up for that mission trip.  Would you?

Well, that is pretty much what God was asking Jonah to do by calling him to go to Nineveh. They were a violent people who were greatly feared.  I am sure if I were Jonah, I would have been thinking, “What can I preach to these guys and not lose my life in the process?”  How about “3 Keys to a better life?”  Or “Don’t be naughty, be nice” or something like that.  You know the old sermon routine – start off with a joke, give ‘em three points, and end with a poem and a prayer.  Wow!  Don’t you just love a good sermon?

Jonah didn’t preach a message like that.  He may have been nervous and fearful, but God gave him a message and he delivered it.  Jonah proclaimed, “Forty more days and Nineveh will be overturned” (Jonah 3:4).  Jonah’s words were few, but they were very direct.  His message was even offensive.  He confronted the people of Nineveh and their disobedience head on: “Forty more days and you will be overturned.  The word overturned is a unique word in the Hebrew language of the Old Testament.  It can mean “overturned” as in destroyed, or “overturned” as in changed.  It has a double meaning.

The Ninevites would have understood his meaning.  Jonah was telling them that God would judge them and destroy them if they did not turn from their sin.  They were headed for judgment.  And yet, God in his grace offered a chance for them to turn.  There was an opportunity to change

Jonah was basically saying, “God is giving you people 40 more days. If you keep running from God and resisting his voice, you will be overturned and judged.  But if you decide to repent and turn, God will forgive you and overturn your lives with change.”

Forty more days!  Did you notice that God gave them a limited time offer? They were not promised forever.  God was giving them a limited time offer.  They had to make a decision to respond to God’s grace.

We don’t have forever either.  You don’t have the promise of tomorrow.  There is no promise you will make it to next week.  You are not guaranteed another year.  We often assume that we have plenty of more time.  So we put God off, and we put God off.  And all the while our time is ticking away.  We could run out of time before we ever turn our lives over to God.

It is not a very wise thing to keep putting God off.  Don’t assume that you have plenty of time.  God is a God of great mercy and grace.  He is a God of second chances, but one day your time will run out.  When your time is out, the only question that will matter at that point is “have you surrendered your life to Jesus Christ?”

Most of us are nowhere near as wicked as the Ninevites, and yet our sin is real nonetheless.  We need forgiveness, and God has provided it through his son Jesus.  We have a window of time to respond.  While we are living, God has given us a limited time offer to say yes to Him, and to His Son Jesus.  So what is it going to be?  And that’s the Word.

When It Hurts: Life at Ground Zero

Sunday, March 8th, 2009

When It Hurts: A Look at the Book of Job

Life at Ground Zero – Just when you think it can’t get any worse, it does.  What do you do when you can’t see God anywhere?  What do you do when He is silent?

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When it Hurts – Suffering, Pain, and Adversity. How is a wise person to respond when life hurts? Perhaps there is no greater place to go for an answer than the book of Job. Job’s life became a battle ground as Satan petitioned God to bring down this righteous man. Would he buckle? Would He curse God? Would He trust God? What about you? How will you respond when life hurts?

Are You Walking in Freedom?

Saturday, March 7th, 2009

When Jonah needed a second chance, God gave it to him.  Jonah ran away from God’s call to go to Nineveh.  Eventually, after a detour in the belly of a great fish, the word of the Lord came to Jonah “a second time.”  God gave Jonah another chance to obey and get it right commanding him, “Go to the great city of Nineveh and proclaim to it the message I give you” (Jonah 3:2).

The word “Go” literally means “arise and go” or “get up and go.”  It implies an imperative need to quickly obey.  God is telling Jonah, “Don’t delay.  Get up and do it now.  Don’t wait another minute.”

Have you ever heard a command from God that you intended to obey, but you waited?  Perhaps you delayed a little bit and reasoned you would get around to it later.  So you waited and waited and waited.  In the end you never obeyed God.  If Jonah had waited too long, he might have eventually backed out again.  He might have let the urgency to obey slowly fade away.

How many times have you let this happen in your life?  God spoke to you clearly about an issue and you didn’t follow through.  You were going to obey, but you waited.  Perhaps God spoke to you in church on Sunday morning, or listening to Christian radio, talking to a friend, or reading your Bible.  Wherever it was, God convicted you and laid something on your heart.  You were committed to following through and obeying God.  You told yourself that you were going to end an unhealthy, ungodly relationship.  You told yourself and God that you were going to share your faith with a friend.  Maybe you promised God that you going to begin to tithe, or give some money to meet a need.  Maybe you told yourself you were finally going to forgive someone who had hurt you, or find some help to overcome your addiction.

There are numerous things that God might have laid on our heart.  You knew it was him.  Your heart was beating.  Your mind was clear.  You knew what you need to do.  You just just needed to “get up and go,” but instead you waited.  You stared making excuses, and putting it off.  Maybe you rationalized that it wasn’t that big of a deal.  And so you never followed through.  You know what God calls that -  disobedience.

Perhaps, God is calling you to “Get up and go” today.  Go and obey. Do it.  Walk in obedience to God.  Don’t put it off anymore.  If it is within your power and ability, don’t the let the sun go down another day without obeying the Lord.

I remember several years ago when I was in seminary, I felt I had been dishonest on an assignment I had turned in for one of my classes.  It wasn’t a real big thing, but it was a compromise in my integrity.  I made a bunch of excuses in my head, but I knew when I turned it in that I had not fully been honest.  I went home for Christmas break, but guess what I couldn’t quit thinking about it?  It was really hard for me to fully enjoy my self. I kept trying to blow it off, but I couldn’t.  I knew what I had to do.  When I got back to campus, I had to “get up and go” to my professor and make it right. He was very gracious and understanding.  Even though in his mind, my indiscretion was fairly minute, he was glad I came to clear my conscience.  I left his office that day feeling as though a load of bricks was off of my shoulder.  I was free.  I was right with God.

Is it time for you to get up and go?  God gives second chances, but we must respond in obedience.  So just do it.  Now.  Don’t wait any more.  Get up and go obey.  And that’s the word.